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Cultivating Positive Habits (Part 2)

31. January, 2015Personal Growth and ExcellenceNo comments

Dinesh K Nagpal

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Happiness:

  1. Always maintain positive attitude about you and also about rest of the world.
  2. Expect the best in all circumstances.
  3. Make a list of your blessings. This list must contain right from your healthy body and mind to your loving family, your education, your house, your several belongings. List everything available to you under the Sun. Read these blessings everyday with a sense of thankfulness for each and every object.
  4. Record various happy moments of your life and read them regularly, especially when you are feeling down. Keep on updating happy moments.
  5. Also make a list of things going well in your life. Make several copies of this list and place them at various places so that you can read this list several times a day.
  6. Change threshold of your happiness and sadness. Make efforts to be happy very easily and sad with great difficulty. You must define them clearly.
  7. Smile quite often. Keep smiling in various adverse circumstances.
  8. Refuse to indulge in self pity, worries, doubt on your future and negative attitude of any kind.
  9. In worries of the past, do not deny miracles of present moment in your life.
  10. Read stories of courageous personalities who have been tremendously successful in spite of suffering from various ailments and physical limitations. Do you know, famous music composer Beethoven was deaf, Helen Keller was deaf, dumb and blind from childhood and Albert Einstein was suffering from Dyslexia?

Peace:

  1. Learn to get rid of your negative habits of anger, hatred, jealously, ego, greed, confrontational attitude and revengefulness etc.
  2. Learn forgiveness. Seek forgiveness for all your mistakes and misdeeds. Forgive yourself, your enemies and all others for their faults and negative attitude toward you. Forgive adverse circumstances of your life. Repeat this affirmation several times a day, “I lovingly forgive and forget everyone who has ever offended and harmed me”.
  3. Replace your negativity with gratefulness. Be thankful to everyone who has been directly or indirectly helping you. Continuously practice gratitude.
  4. Keep a gratitude journal. Write everything that made you smiling. Thank minimum ten persons every day and write their names and reason of your thankfulness in this gratitude journal.
  5. Cultivate habit of helping others. Give patient and compassionate hearing to those they need your help. Your helping hand should be available to the people of this world to the maximum extent you can. Try to find opportunities to help others.
  6. Practice sharing. Share everything you have and you can. Share your money, your belongings, your time and your resources. It has been suggested in many scriptures that one should share minimum ten percent of their income with those they are in need.
  7. Respect others. Altogether stop disrespect behavior towards others no matter whom the other person is. Always be respectful towards others.
  8. Practice honesty in all your dealings with others. A dishonest person can never live in peace. It is rightly said, “Honesty is the best policy”.
  9. Don’t loss your coolness even in adverse situations. Get rid of your habit of anger and hatred towards others.
  10. Think positive. Find a positive word that resonates with you. Nurture this positive habit in you and let it grow to the extent people start recognizing you with this word. You must be kind, helping, loving appreciating, truthful, punctual, caring, sharing and co-operative etc. Let us be positive now and for always.
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Cultivating Positive Habits

31. December, 2014Personal Growth and ExcellenceNo comments

Dinesh K Nagpal

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When we meet real tragedy in life, we can react in two ways – either by losing hope and falling into self-destructive habits, or by using the challenge to find our inner strength. Thanks to the teachings of Buddha, I have been able to take this second way.  ~  Dalai Lama

Your net worth to the world is usually determined by what remains after your bad habits are subtracted from your good ones. ~  Benjamin Franklin

An unfortunate thing about this world is that the good habits are much easier to give us than the bad ones. ~ Somerset Maugham

“The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken.”  ~ Samuel Johnson

“We become what we repeatedly do.”  ~  Sean Covey

“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.”  ~  Jim Ryun

“Nothing so needs reforming as other people’s habits.”  ~  Mark Twain

“Good habits are worth being fanatical about.”  ~  John Irving

A bad habit never disappears miraculously. It is an undo-it-yourself project.  ~  Abigail Van Buren

Men’s natures are alike; it is their habits that separate them.  ~  Confucius

It seems, in fact, as though the second half of a man’s life is made up of nothing, but the habits he has accumulated during the first half.  ~ Fyodor Dostoevsky

 

Now that year 2014 is over and we are entering into realm of New Year 2015.  Time is passing every moment.

Almost every one of us makes a resolution for coming year to bring improvement in life. People look forward for good health, more wealth, happiness, success and peace. They want improved relationship with their near and dear one’s and several other positive traits of life.

We want everything positive in our lives. But most of the time, we forget to practice principles that make our lives happy. It is the time not only to frame some resolutions but to act as well and establish positivism in our lives.

Here are some suggestions for improvement in various traits. We need to cultivate some positive habits for the same.

For Good Health:

  1. Exercise regularly, practice yoga and various breathing exercises.
  2. Meditate regularly. Fifteen to thirty minute’s meditation twice everyday brings miraculous results.
  3. Take natural food. Stop taking fast food and unnatural food. Increase intake of fruits, vegetables and certain herbs.
  4. Your diet must be balanced having required quantities of carbohydrates, proteins, fats, minerals, vitamins and enzymes etc.
  5. Drink adequate quantity of water every day. It varies from person to person and in different climatic conditions. However it is suggested to drink three to four liter water every day. You can learn more about the same in Importance of drinking water.
  6. Avoid taking food that is acidic in nature. (pH below 7.00 is acidic).
  7. Stop taking drugs, tobacco in any form and also avoid excessive use of alcohol, caffeine, carbonated drinks, salt and sugar etc.
  8. Take adequate sleep. Avoid excessive or less sleep.
  9. Keep happy disposition and laugh as much as you can. It is rightly said, ‘Laughter is the best medicine.’
  10. Maintain your thoughts positive. Avoid anger and stress.

Getting Success:

  1. Make a goal and write the same on a paper. Read it every day.
  2. Make a plan that you wish to follow to achieve this goal.
  3. Develop strong willpower to achieve your goal.
  4. Stay focused for fulfillment of your objective.
  5. Your efforts must be continuous and consistent. Every single day you must work for the same.
  6. Repeat positive affirmations for achievement of your goal.
  7. Make a mental picture of having achieved your goal. Do it twice every day for ten to fifteen minutes.
  8. Maintain positive mental attitude and have faith in your capabilities of succeeding in life.
  9. Do not deviate from your chosen path.
  10. Do not quit and keep trying. It is rightly said, “Quitters name win and winners never quit.”

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Alter threshold of your happiness and sadness

31. August, 2014Personal Growth and ExcellenceNo comments

Dinesh K Nagpal

“I love those who can smile in trouble…”    ~ Leonardo da Vinci 

“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.”   ~ Mahatma Gandhi

 “We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.” ~ Abraham Lincoln 

 “Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.”  ~ Winston Churchill 

Everyone thinks of changing the world, But no one thinks of changing himself.  ~ Leo Tolstoy

 “A man is happy so long as he chooses to be happy.” ~ Alexander Solzhenitsyn 

“The greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances.”  ~ Martha Washinton 

“If you don’t think every day is a good day, just try missing one.” ~ Cavett Robert 

“We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.” ~ Charles R. Swindoll 

“Were you born this infuriating?”
“It’s taken me years of practice.”  ~ Misty Massey 

If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you. ~ Author unknown.

 

Be careful at Social media while interacting:

This is the era of tremendous advancements at a faster pace and easy connectivity of people living around the world. It seems as if we are living in a global village. You have innumerous tools for instantly connecting with people related to you one or the other way. You have social media sites including Face book, Twitter, LinkedIn, Whatsapp, Skype, Viber and many more tools to connect with one another.

With increased and easy connectivity people at large remain connected with one anther most of the time and consistently pour out all their thoughts and inner feelings including that of love, hatred, anger and disagreement etc. towards one another.

Avoid criticism and making mockery of others:

This outburst of feelings has both types of effects. In case you are sending positive signals in form of love, goodwill, care, greetings, welfare etc, it leads to healthy and loving relationship among inmates. On the contrary, people who send thoughts of anger, hatred, confrontation, abusing, criticism, finding faults in others, this negative attitude results in a war of words. This in turn leads to strained relationship among friends, relatives, customers and colleagues etc. And cause of worry is that there are many more incidences of confrontation as compared to that of love and understanding. Negative attitude prevails all over.  And basic cause of this attitude is mostly due habit of intolerance, ego, pride including superiority and inferiority complexes.

Recently I heard an echo of similar incidence of confrontation among a small group of people of our family; they are very close and dear to me. They love and respect one another very much!!! But such incidences lead to strained relations. And such incidences happen almost everywhere in this world. And gradually we are becoming more and more hostile towards one another.

Give a thought before expressing your feelings:

Is not it most appropriate time to give a proper thought to curb this ever increasing menace?

At the outset, every one of us needs to introspect and keep a careful watch on our thought pattern. There is general perception such problems are due to attitude of people. And to maintain loving relationships, we need to change our attitude.

Do you feel bad very easily and happy with difficulty?

However, it is my perception that our threshold for feelings of good and bad are placed wrongly. People at large have a tendency to develop bad feelings very easily while good feelings are generated with greatly difficulty and are exhibited seldom. And because of this tendency, we get annoyed with one another easily and sometimes without any provocation or genuine reason.  Our inner feelings of anger, hatred, jealousy, ego, pride and selfish behavior overpower us so quickly and we are carried away with such feelings. These negative feelings are gathered over the years and are predominantly displayed in our behavior and various other activities.

On the contrary, feelings of happiness, love, affection, selflessness, caring, sharing, forbearance, forgiveness and gratitude take back seat and are displayed in our behavior rarely or with great difficulty. As a result, we seldom feel good in our various activities.

To find easy solution to problem pertaining to strained relationships, bad temper and ill will, you must learn to change threshold for good and bad situations in your life. You need to change definitions of your feelings of being happy and sad.

Change your definitions:

Make your definition such that it is very easy to be happy and extremely difficult to be sad. Decide that your good day is today because you are alive and are breathing easily. Stick to this definition and learn to keep you filled with feelings of happiness, contentment, enthusiasm, optimism and positivism very easily and effortlessly.

If anyone asks you a question, why are you so happy and enthusiastic? Your answer should be, “I am happy because I am alive today and breathing easily and happily on this planet.”

This attitude will help you living happily and you will always remain full of love and affection; caring and sharing; cooperation and understanding; forgiveness and gratitude and health and wealth.

Besides being happy easily and conveniently at the same time you must also resolve to be sad with great difficulties. It should be rather impossible for any person to make you sad. Decide a condition of your sadness and annoyance. You must agree to a condition that you will be sad only when you have lost more than $ one million in a day or if there is most unfortunate incidence happened in your life. These conditions of sadness will make it very difficult for you to be sad or down. And almost all the time you will remain happy and content.

Apply these conditions now:

All your efforts must be directed towards bringing these positive changes in your life. To develop this habit you will have to make sincere, honest, dedicated and consistent efforts. Every now and then, you must remind you of these new set of definitions. Write these conditions on papers and place them at different places including bedroom, dining room, kitchen, prayer room, washroom, cupboards, study table, work area, dash board of your car or any other place where it is visible to you several times a day. You can also make a wall paper of your computer, laptop and cell phone. Quite often repeat these conditions in your mind and resolve to stick to the same.

Within few days your habits will change and you will observe that you are one the happiest persons living on this earth.  You will always remain happy, content and optimistic person. You will also learn to make others happy with your attitude.

And there is no annoyance, unhappiness, anger, hatred, confrontation or ill wills in this world.

Love and happiness prevails everywhere.

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Being generous (Part 2)

30. June, 2013Personal Growth and ExcellenceNo comments

Dinesh K Nagpal

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‘Generosity’ is the ideal starting point in learning how to let go of self centered-ness and for seeing that deep joy comes from releasing whatever you are holding too tightly at a given moment.

Levels of generosity:

Generosity is the quality of being kind and generous. In Judaism they consider eight levels of charity and generosity, starting from lowest to highest.

Giving unwillingly.

Giving willingly but giving less than you could.

Giving only after being asked.

Giving without being asked.

Giving to a recipient, you do not know, but he knows you.

Giving to a recipient you know, but who does not know you.

Giving when both giver and recipient are anonymous to one another.

Giving that enables self reliance.

How to be generous?

Be more generous. Use your God given ability to help those in need. You can practice generosity by giving your time, money, talents and material objects individually or together to meet the needs of others.

Time is an asset. Every morning God gives us twenty four hours to spend. But unknowingly, we waste most of our time. Instead, we can use it for a noble task, in a fruitful way for the benefit of the self and others.

There are several ways; we can help others by giving our time. Every one of us can find a way depending on needs of people in our surroundings. We can help others in need with our money and material resources. Our talent is a unique thing. With our talent and energy, we can also help others.

Please remember, it is always easy to give your time, money, talent, energy and material resources when you have lot to spare and share. But your true test of generosity comes when you don’t have surplus. Do you still give what little you have to help someone else? If you really do that is wonderful. This is an act of generosity.

You get blessings of God when you are generous in true sense and show your acts of generosity and kindness with little resources you have.

Develop compassion, while helping others with a feeling of a mother taking care of her child. Learn to give at your own, unconditionally and without any anticipation of reward.

When you give unconditionally to others, you experience a profound letting go and these results in a sense of true freedom and connection with the world.

Your activities and actions taken for help, co-operation and welfare of others, in thoughts, word and deeds are generosity. It is not a singular act that makes you a generous person. Therefore giving needs to be practiced regularly and cultivated as a habit. Giving must always be selflessly. Your essence must be kindness.

How Tibetans develop habit of generosity?

InTibet, they cultivate habit of giving from childhood. They take a small item, say a potato and pass it on from one hand to another repeatedly. They go on doing the same unless it becomes easy to pass on from one hand to another. At a later stage, they move to more expensive item. It can be currency or an ornament. And these children go on practicing giving from one hand to another.

Tzedakah is Jewish tradition of generosity:

Charity and generosity are fundamental and integral parts of Jewish tradition. Giving to poor is an obligation in Judaism. Jewish have a law that they are responsible for needs of the poor. It is a duty that cannot be forsaken even by those they are in need.

They give by way of giving their wealth, giving of oneself physically and giving of one’s wisdom. Traditional Jewish give ten percent of their income to charity. They call it Tzedakah and give aid, assistance and money to poor and needy or to other worthy causes.

Thus a habit of letting go and relinquishing every object is developed in them. They also make sure that their outer material attachment is converted to an internal habit of giving selflessly. Thus a habit of generosity is cultivated in Tibetans from childhood.

Single largest act of generosity:

Warren Buffet in June 2006 announced giving eighty five percent of his fortune in charity that amounted to $ thirty one billion. It is one of the largest acts of generosity in world’s history.

Generosity must be out compassion:

Every one of us should make it a habit of giving to the best of our capabilities, not reluctantly or under any compulsion, but with a sense of compassion, love and cheerfulness towards mankind. Every one of us must always keep in mind that God loves cheerful givers.

Those they want to see profits in their every action, for them generosity can be viewed as a wise investment for future. As generosity brings you closure to God and He loves you very much and brings endless stream of happiness and abundance in your life.

Habit of generosity will establish world peace:

By continuous practice of generosity, you create an atmosphere of trust, mutual understanding, universal brotherhood and cheerfulness. You also create a world where there is abundance and more than enough for all. Everyone is content, happy, healthy and peaceful.

So commence practicing generosity if you are not doing so. And if you consider yourself as a generous person, make efforts to increase your level of generosity, so as to reach at its highest level.

This will increase your wealth and welfare and you will lead a peaceful life.

Practice generosity and help establishing happy, contented and peaceful world.

 

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Being generous

29. June, 2013Personal Growth and ExcellenceOne comment

Dinesh K Nagpal

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“The value of a man resides in what he gives and not in what he is capable of receiving.”  ~ Albert Einstein 

“Generosity is not giving me that which I need more than you do, but it is giving me that which you need more than I do.”  ~ Khalil Gibran

“Gentleness, self-sacrifice and generosity are the exclusive possession of no one race or religion.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi

“Unless we think of others and do something for them, we miss one of the greatest sources of happiness.” ~ Ray Lyman Wilbur

“Think of giving not as a duty but as a privilege.”  ~ John D. Rockefeller Jr.

“Teach love, generosity, good manners and some of that will drift from the classroom to the home and who knows, the children will be educating the parents.” ~ Roger Moore

“You will discover that you have two hands. One is for helping yourself and the other is for helping others.”  ~ Audrey Hepburn

“What we have done for ourselves alone dies with us; what we have done for others and the world remains and is immortal.” ~ Albert Pike

”No one has yet realized the wealth of sympathy, the kindness and generosity hidden in the soul of a child. The effort of every true education should be to unlock that treasure.” ~ Emma Goldman

“You have not lived today until you have done something for someone who can never repay you.”  ~ John Bunyan

“Happiness exists on earth, and it is won through prudent exercise of reason, knowledge of the harmony of the universe, and constant practice of generosity. ~ Jose Marti

“Let us try to teach generosity and altruism, because we are born selfish.” ~ Richard Dawkins

Human being is a social animal. He lives in a civilized society and is dependent of others for his needs and wants. Living with others makes human generous. Generosity is basic nature of human being.

Each and every religion of this world emphasizes generosity to be practiced as core value for every one of their followers.

Buddhism:

Buddhist tradition is rich with accounts of generosity and compassion. In Buddhism, generosity is one of the most important components of six paramites.

It is said that you must learn an attitude of generosity from the depth of your heart and ensure that you do not seek any reward for yourself.

You must also ensure that your acts of selflessness and generosity should not be motivated by desire for self gratification and personal benefits.

The first training that Buddha gave for everyone was the practice of giving. He always emphasized practicing generosity and said, “If you are well grounded in generosity, your hearts will always be more available for insight”

Christianity:

Christians believe God is generous. He loves to fill our cups of blessings to overflowing. He also wants us to become like Him and be generous. Generous giving is an act of Christian worship. Every Christian must show the genuineness of Christian confession. It is said that God measures gifts of everyone according to givers capacity and attitude.

Hinduism:

In Hindu religion there are twelve important virtues to be practiced by mankind and generosity is one among those virtues.

Hindu religion says generosity is

  • Living in love and trust and connection with people rather than self centeredness.
  • Opening our hearts to give as we have received from somewhere.
  • Honoring our oneness and interconnections.
  • Creating a world of abundance rather than world of scarcity.

Helping those in need is essence of generosity. Giver should give with pure heart and taker should receive with glad heart.

Islam:

Generosity was among the countless good qualities of the prophet Muhammad. He was the most generous person and he used to be most generous during month of Ramadan.

Islam says, our worldly possessions are bounties from God, the most generous. Muslims believe that everything originates from God and everything will return to Him, thus it is logical to believe as if that which we posses is merely a loan something we are obliged to preserve, protect and ultimately share. If everything flows from Allah and everything returns to Allah, do you truly own anything?

You are a steward, taking care of that the portion of this world under your care, which is to be preserved and protected and shared.

Generosity is the characteristic of the Muslim and kindness is his disposition.

Jainism:

Jain religion emphasizes following ten virtues for every follower. These ten virtues are forgiveness, humility, honesty, purity, truthfulness, self restraint, penance, renunciation, non attachment and celibacy. All these virtues promote generosity among them.

In renunciation, Jains are told to give fourfold charity. These include, giving food to hungry and needy, promoting fearlessness to those they are afraid of and are living in fear of someone or something, giving medicines and providing treatment to those they cannot afford. In addition, they are also told to give books and education; including religious books to those they are in need.

Judaism:

Judaism says, happiness is not made by what we own. It lies in what we give. It also has set a minimum standard for giving as part of every Jews generous responsibility. They must share minimum ten percent of their earning. And it could be more depending on capacity of giver.

Sikhism

Sikh religious community demonstrates true meaning of hospitality in abundance. It is the foundation of Sikh faith eating together. In their places of worship named, Gurudwara, they prepare food for community and strangers alike.

In Sikhism ethics and religion go together. For spiritual development Sikhs must inculcate moral qualities and practice of virtue in every day life is vital. Qualities like honesty, compassion, generosity, patience, humility must be built with perseverance and diligence.

Zoroastrianism:               

Zoroastrians promote generosity in a big way through its followers.

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Dr. Dinesh K. Nagpal

He has been studying and practicing The Art and Science of Positivism for over 35 years. His zest for gathering ancient knowledge based on Vedas, Upanishads and other Hindu scriptures, which are full of living life in totality, for the benefit of mankind, brought him laurels. The motto of his life is ‘Caring and Sharing is the essence of life.’

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